RELATIONSHIP TIPS: SIGNS THAT YOU ARE TOO EMOTIONALLY NEEDY AND HOW TO CONTROL IT

For a relationship to exist there needs to be two mature persons. Being mature of course has to do with being able to stand on one's feet, to be able to handle one's self without assistance. That we fall in love and enter into relationships does not mean that we cannot live alone.

It only means we are willing to give up some of our independence to someone we trust not mess up with it. However, there are people who take this impression too far. They give up the whole of their independence and rely on their partner for almost everything that has to do with their wellbeing. They usually end up a burden to their partner, who becomes emotionally tapped out and overwhelmed by this. So how do you know if you are one??

Your answers to the questions below will determine if you are or not. So ask yourself the following questions and be sincere with your answers

1. Does the whole of your happiness depend on your partner?

2. Do you look to them to supply all your needs in love partner in love, sex, and support?

3. Can you comfortably make reasonable decisions on your own, or does your partner have to validate all your actions?

4. Do you have other activities to fill your days with, or do you idly count minutes till the next time you see them?

5. Is this relationship the centre of your universe? How about relationships with other persons? Friends, colleagues, and families?

6. Does it annoy you greatly if you are not included in every single one of your partner’s plans?

If you notice that after answering the above questions, you can sincerely say that you are emotionally needy beyond normal which is always not a good thing in a relationship. Now the question is, how do you control it?

Below are the 3 simple things that can help you control it:

Upgrade your self-esteem:  If you honestly believe that you might be exhibiting behaviours linked to neediness, you need to start doing more things on your own. You must also learn to feel more secure in your abilities and be more self-assured.

Learn to be more trusting: If you lack this needed character trait, work on yourself till you reach that stage where you are more trusting of your partner and comfortable with the fact that they cannot be with you all day.

Be less-choking: No matter how close you are to another person, it is unhealthy to spend all of your time with him or her.

Working till these changes are evident in you will make you a happier, less-independent person and more valued by your partner. They will know that you can obviously do without them, but just that you have chosen not to live without them.

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