Some of these things are spoken and some unspoken. Lovers learn things about each other just by being together and doing things with each other; which is why it is important for couples to court for a period of time, chat so many times, engage in so many social and other activities together just so their hearts become knitted together to the point where marriage holds the promise of a better future for them.
But then some things will remain unknown till you ask. if you are asking about simple questions like genotype, their family tree and educational background, etc it's still consider the basics and normal. But things may get really awkward when you consider getting some other personal information. However since marriage is involved, you cannot shy away from asking about those things.
1. Past sexual experience(s): It's important you ask about your partner's past sexual experience and whether he or she has ever contacted STD. Yes, this may sound awkward, but it's important to know.
2. Financial responsibility: Money isn't always something fun to talk about most times, especially when budgets are to be planned and decisions made about how the day to day affairs of the home will be run. Who pays for what? Who is responsible for which bill? But because of the way the modern day relationships and marriages are being run operated, this conversation has become really important before you tie the knot with anyone.
3. Petty/Insignificant Things: This may sound ridiculous to you but at some point before you marry, you need to talk about things like whether or not the toilet seat is to be left up or down, whether or not phone calls have to be daily, or if texting would suffice, Is it cool to fart in front of each other? are you okay with me peeing in front of you? Should I close the door before pooping? Should I knock if the bathroom door is closed? Would we need to share mobile phone passwords? Who will iron, take care of the garbage?, who will shop?, etc. All these things may sound trivial and unnecessary but lesser things have been known to cause problems for couples.
4. Pregnancy/Abortion: If your partner has ever been pregnant you’d need to know. She’s actually expected to mention it to you by herself but on the assumption that she forgot to mention it despite having been with you for over a period of time, you should ask. It may sound really embarrassing but you also need to know if she has ever had an abortion.
5. Family Health History, Culture, Tradition: It's also important for you to know the kind of family you are entering into. Ask about the health history, culture, traditions of the family and see if it's something you can cope with.
Marriage is a life time commitment, so it's very important that you ask all manner of questions (whether awkward or not) you need to ask before tying the knot with the person....
A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage....
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