Relationship Tips: 6 Signs You Are A Selfless Lover

Most times, when we, as humans, honestly look within and place ourselves on a scale, we know where our deficiencies are, and what our weaknesses are. As we point out the weaknesses and deficiencies, it is also important to strike a balance and realise the good things about ourselves.

So, if you ever find yourself wondering whether you have been good and selfless enough in your relationship, the six things listed below will help you know you are..

YOU MAKE SACRIFICES: Making sacrifices is an essential component and proof of your love. If you have not been making or you have not made any sacrifices at all for your partner and the relationship, then you must be really selfish. But if you have, then you are a selfless lover.

YOU’LL INCONVENIENCE YOURSELF FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE: Yes, you put them first, do things for them when it is inconvenient. You do stuff for your partner even when it is very inconvenient for you. You are a good lover.

YOU PICK UP NEW INTERESTS/HOBBIES FOR THEIR SAKE: When you are in love, you may likely find yourself doing stuff you thought you could never do or stuffs you really don’t have interest in. So, if you are have an open mind towards learning new stuff and picking up new interests so as to be closer to your partner and make your relationship work even more, you are exhibiting a sign of selflessness that needs to continue and get improved on.

YOU KNOW WHEN TO LET A FIGHT GO: If your partner messes up and realizes that he/she has done wrong by you, it is totally normal to point it out, and even be pissed off about it. However, when they realise this and show remorse, a good lover knows that their misery should not be prolonged. Sincere apologies are meant to be accepted as soon as possible and if you are already doing this, all you need to do is keep it up. You are on the right track.

YOU ALWAYS TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHATEVER MOOD YOUR PARTNER COMES UP WITH: Frankly, being in love, just like life itself, is not a bed of roses. So there are bound to be times that are not as beautiful as all the moments we see on social media channels.

Sometimes, your partner goes through mood swings, experiences disappointments, gets sad and unhappy and this may affect their relation with you in those moments. Ask yourself now, how do I react in those times? Do I try to understand them and put myself in their shoes, or do I flare up in annoyance that they do not have my time? If your answer is the former, you are doing it right.

YOU DON’T TAKE YOUR PARTNER EMOTIONAL WEAKNESS FOR GRANTED:  Yes, people do this and that is why, it really needs to be addressed. If you really a selfless person, then you will never take your partner’s emotional weakness for granted. Never make him/her feel like they are forcing themselves on you. Never make your partner always feel like they are always in the wrong. Emotionally needy people are always like that. So it is up to you to always let them feel and know that they are valuable and somebody of worth.

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