First dates can be worrisome and full on anxiety. Not only do you have to battle with all the preconceived notions you have about what the other person will be like, but you also have to worry about other tiny details leading up to the main event. There are so many things that we perceive as "indicators" of a good first date, but things aren't as plain as they seem. Here are five misconceptions about good first dates:
1. There has to be an instant Chemistry: We might have heard things like "all good first dates have some levels of sparks" but in reality, that's not really the case. "There's a difference between chemistry and attraction. "Attraction is feeling like you like them, their look while Chemistry is how things feel between the two of you". If you're not attracted to them, you're unlikely to ever feel chemistry. Connections take time to build, and even though the chemistry might not have been apparent within the first couple hours you spend together, if you feel there's something much more to explore about your date, go for it.
2. The Date should last for a long period of time as an indication that you both enjoyed your company: The first Date might end up being a lot of fun but truth everybody has a life outside a date. So, if your date called it quits after a couple of drinks or few conversation, it doesn't mean he/she is trying to snub you and escape because they are not enjoying the date. In the real sense of it, a first date should only last a couple hours, max. When you spend a lot of time with someone you just met, it can feel good and it might also look like both of you are connecting well, but the truth is that your energy has a flow, and hits a point at which it peaks, and then it declines." It's unrealistic to assume that your first date will last for long hours, so don't set that expectation.
3. You have to be really into your Date before you meet him/her: You don't really have to be into someone before having a date with them. It might even be someone whose chats, calls, texts, etc is disturbing and that might make you unwilling to give them a shot. But if you don't meet them, how would really know who/what they are? Meeting him/her is a sure way to know if you both are a match.
4. A good first dates always end up with a kiss or more: This is a big misconception about first dates. It doesn't mean you're not into each other if kisses or sex doesn't happen. If the chemistry is feeling great, and emotions becomes really tense, it might end in a kiss. If it doesn't,
that does not imply that it's a bad date. It just simply means that neither of you wanted to force it to be more than it is. In most cases, a first date is like a begining of a relationship. So, it might take the second date or more before you can both be comfortable with biting each others lips off.
5. First Good Dates always Leads into a Relationship:
Oftentimes, a date just ends up as a date. It's unrealistic and unwise to assume that because your first date is good, it will evolve into something more. There are so many factors that go into a nurturing a relationship and, while chemistry is important, timing is also very important. Naturally, a lot of dates aren't going to turn into a relationship, and some won't even have a second date. Sometimes it will be your choice, and sometimes it won't be. So, no matter how things turn out on your first date, let it teach you things about love, yourself and how well you connect with people. Take a lesson from it and let it help you move towards your next relationship.
Always remember, all you can really do is go with the flow and communicate openly, and hopefully, a first date will turn into something much more.
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